You Do Not Have to Have It All Together

Somehow, there is this quiet expectation that you should always know what you are doing.

That you should have a plan.

That things should make sense by now.

That you should feel more certain, more put together, more sure of yourself.

But if we are being honest, most people are just figuring it out as they go.

Even the ones who look very put-together online.

Even the ones giving advice like they have life in a neat little box.

Even the ones you think have already “made it.”

Everybody is adjusting. Everybody is guessing small small.

Life is not as straight as we like to pretend. It bends. It surprises you. Sometimes it just scatters your plans and looks at you like, now what?

And you figure something out. Not everything. Just something.

So if you feel unsure sometimes, that is not a sign that you are behind.

It is just a sign that you are living.

You are allowed to not have all the answers yet.

You are allowed to be in the middle of figuring things out.

You are allowed to take things one step at a time without having the whole picture.

There is nothing wrong with where you are.

You are not late. You are not off track.

You are just still becoming.

All my love,

-Olamide from MANI