What Your Relationship Could Have Been Missing

"Why do people behave like that?"

" It's common sense that things should be done in so so and so way!"

"Am I the only one who thinks right around here?"

This was me for as long as I can remember. I navigated those sentences (and others like them) as easily as I can the various routes that lead to my house, steady dishing them out once I encounter people who do things differently from what I consider as normal.

The result? Yeah, you guessed right. I could barely ever make or keep real friendships.

I learnt the hard way earlier this year, after nearly losing a dear friend whom I love so much to this idealistic perfectionism, and as your online buddy who loves you, I thought to share.

I'm learning that people are different. You've probably heard this a lot, but I'd like for you to understand the implication of this sentence. People are different- personality types, backgrounds, parenting styles they grew under (if their parents were present at all). The list is long. Using a one-size-fits-all to judge everyone in your life is a recipe for broken relationships (romantic and otherwise) because when we set the same standards for everyone, many people will fall short, and because these standards seen like no brainers to us who have set them, it'll constantly seem like these people intentionally don't want to meet up when in reality, it may not come to them as naturally as it does to us.

Make no mistakes, some people don't care to love you, so showing them this grace sets you up for hurt. This is directed to people who genuinely try.

I've found my relationships thriving since I started learning and applying this principle. I hope it helps you too.

With love,

Hembafan from MANI