On Misunderstandings.

I need glasses to see, but I often choose not to wear them. On one occasion that I didn't have them, a friend waved at me, but I didn't see them, so I didn't wave back. Feeling angry, that friend decided I was being a snob and told our whole circle. Before I knew what was happening, the entire friend group had turned against me, and I was left absolutely clueless about what I'd done wrong.

Eventually, I found out, and we sorted things out, per se. But it didn't erase the harm that had already been done. If he had just asked me directly, I would have explained in seconds. Instead, he told everyone except the person who supposedly offended him.

Misunderstandings are not nice, and even worse, are the rumours that come from them. People don't always offend with malicious intent; it could be unconscious sometimes. If someone upsets you, give them a chance to explain, so you can get a clear picture.

When you talk about people instead of to them, you might create a narrative based on your assumptions rather than reality.

Misunderstandings are inevitable, but it's how they are handled that truly matters. Next time you’re hurt, ask yourself: Am I reacting to a fact or a story I’ve told myself?

-Oma from MANI